'My fiancee eloped with another man carrying a pregnancy that belongs to me'

My name is Chris and I am a very bitter and angry man at the moment because of what a woman i love with all my hrt and was preparing to settle down with, did to me.

I met sophia about five years ago and she told me that her boyfriend had just dumped her and travelled abroad. She was so heartbroken that it took me close to one year to convince her that I was real.

After accepting me, I showed her how much I loved her in every way I could, just to make her know I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. I took her to my family in the East and everyone loved and accepted her.

Her family too took me like one of their own and it was very clear we were heading to a life together, until she played her hand of deceit and betrayal.

After we did our introduction, she now moved in with me while we prepared for both the traditional marriage and white wedding. In August, sophia broke the news that she was already three months pregnant and I was over the moon with joy and informed our families that we would be tying finalising everything for the marriage and a date was fixed for December 19.

But on October 28, sophia decided to make me look like the greatest fool on earth. I had traveled to Abuja where I spent five days on an official assignment and when I came back, a neighbour told me that my pregnant fiancée told him she was traveling to her town to see her mother and handed me a letter.

I was somehow worried because she did not tell me she was tarveling. But on opening the letter, sophia wrote that she had traveled to London to be with her that same boyfriend who dumped her, describing him as her only true love. She also said I should not worry about the child as the man has agreed to adopt him.

How wicked can some women be? I have been devastated and have even thought of committing suicide.

AM I BEING BLINDED BY LOVE?

IS it  normal for one to be in a relationship for 2yrs without meeting the family members of her man? He has met, dinned, and have been given that sense of belonging and importance by her family. It seems like he is hiding her, ashamed of her or most likely lying to her. well, this is my predicament. I really do love this man and it feels he does love me too but ........ I dont feel secure anymore and he has not tried doing anything to reassure me. Apart from not introducing me to his family for 2yrs now and makes up stories everytime I raise the topic, he has never for once taken care of my upkeep. Even though i don't ask him for anything, I expect he shows concern about how I survive as he is more financial stable than me. I feel like am the side- chick or worse, " the irrelevant naive girlfriend" and as if he says all the nice things to keep me in the relationship. I'm based in PH while he is based in Abuja. Everytime I try talking to him  about how I feel, we end up quarreling because he hardly listens or understands. Am I being blinded by the love I feel or are my instincts right?

JUST LOVELY AND BEAUTIFUL TO KNOW THAT PEOPLE STILL LOVE BEYOND MEASURES!!!

  LOVE NEVER FAILS!!!


 True love is an acceptance of of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.
 True love is neither physical nor romantic. the happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything,   They just make the best of everything they have. Life isn't about how how to survive the storm but how to dance in the rain.

HE CONFESSED TOHAVE HAD SEX WITH HIS CHURCH MEMBER

I'm 25yrs old final year student, dating a guy same age.... he's a graduate awaiting NYSC. We've been dating for a year now. About one month ago my boyfriend called me and told me a female church member would be staying in his house for 3days from owerri, because they have a church programme.... ( Dominion city) i accepted due to the trust I had for him. On that sunday he told me to go to church with him but later told me he cant wait, that i should meet him in church which was unusual of him. so i felt it was because of that girl in his house that made him not to wait for me. After all he was inviting me to my church . He said the girl could'nt wait anymore. i felt bad but we later sorted the issue out after 1 week. After our make up, he took me out and confessed he had sex with the girl he allowed to stay in his house ( female church member) I felt bad but i had to let it go & gave him antibiotics to take because he did not use condom with her. After a week he came back & told me that the girl said she was pregnant. i told him to invite the girl over, then i prescribed drugs for her to take after confirming she was pregnant ( I'm an auxiliary nurse before i got admission to study Medilab). but i later thought of it that this guy that i allowed to stay with a girl  & he got her pregnant, worst might happen and my relationship will be at risk. So i told my boyfriend to send her money so she can take care of her self over there... which he reluctantly accepted. On friday, he called me to prescribe the drugs for him $ i told him i wont prescribe until he tells me who want to use it. After much persuation, he told me its for the same girl. I asked if she was around, he said "yes" i got angry because he did nt tell me the would come after what we agreed.... He started shouting at me when i came back, calling me all sort of names that i couldnt trust him. After everytin that night, I went to the chemist and gave him the drugs for her to take. Meanwhile my friend told him to take the girl to the clinic but he bluntly refused. Early in the morning, he came to my house that the girl could'nt stand the pain that she vomited everything. I went to the house, asked the girl some questions  & found out this guy have been lying to me. The girl has been his childhood friend, they became intimate last year. He dis virgined her & she doesn;t even know what birth control is because she is so naive. I told him that if he still want us to continue, he should tell the girl the truth about us, which he bluntly refused. he seems to be taken my meekness for granted. Although he use to be nice & caring in the past. Now it's been almost two weeks he last called, no signs of remorse. I don't know if what i did was wrong or right I;m confussed ...... Mind you the girl in question don't know anything about us ........ i need advice pls.